The Death Midwife

What is a Death Midwife?

A death midwife assists an individual and their family through the transition of death, just as a birth midwife assists the baby and the mother through the transition of birth. The role includes that of: spiritual counsellor, death doula, home funeral guide, funeral planner and celebrant.

Hiring a death midwife to help you navigate the journey from the physical dimension could be the best decision of your life. It is a journey filled with unknowns, with valleys of sadness and mountains that require courage and endurance, but it doesn’t have to be a journey of suffering. With support and guidance the death journey can be one of awe and gratitude, of expansive loving awareness never before imagined. It can be a journey filled with kindness and tenderness and peace. Our final days can be the best days of our lives, if we are open to receive the gifts, let go of resistance and welcome the unknown. Please consider this service for yourself and your loved ones.

If you would like to learn how to support a loved-one on their journey, we offer trainings for the Death Doula and Death Midwife. Click here for details.

If you have questions concerning conscious dying, caring for a loved-one, or home-based after death care and home funerals, you can now Ask the Death Midwife. Scroll below to make your appointment.

Who is the Death Midwife?

Meet Olivia Bareham

The Death Midwife, Founder

Hello, and thank you for visiting the Sacred Crossings website.

My name is Olivia and I am known primarily as a death midwife, but am also a dedicated student of the Mystery, a teacher, healer, inter-faith minister, mother, grandmother, friend and Mystic.

Every since my mother died in 2005 I realized that at the moment of death and for a few days following there is a profound opportunity for healing. I turned my ministry toward the goal of inspiring and empowering others to reclaim the lost art and healing ritual of home-based after death care.  When we lean consciously into this liminal space, allow ourselves to feel the depths of our fear, love and sorrow we are re-arranged and never the same.

The work is tender, raw, honest, gentle, real, alive and deeply satisfying. I fall in love over and over again and become more and more aligned to my true purpose – to help change the culture of death and dying from fear to love.

I feel the expansive field of work with the dying and their families is Death Midwifery and includes the role of Spiritual end-of-life counselor, death doula, home funeral guide, funeral planner, celebrant  and even funeral director and care giver. The Art of Death Midwifery training program was designed to cover all aspects of the work.

If you have any questions about death and dying; about a loved-one’s journey or personal inquiries about trainings please write write:

“Death is life’s greatest teacher – it is time for us take this skeleton out of the closet once and for all, to lay her gently on the table and allow her wisdom to gently penetrate the depths of our psyche till we are free from fear, free from attachment, free from conditioning, free to truly live.”

– Olivia Bareham

Listen to Olivia’s most recent podcast below.

In an effort to find a way to support individuals and their families I have set aside morning hours for phone appointments. We find that most questions can be answered in 20 minutes with a follow-up if needed. Typical questions have been….

~ My husband has been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer but refuses to talk about it. There are so many decisions to make, how do we move forward?

~ I want to have a home funeral, but my sister is too afraid – can you explain the process to her to help her understand the benefits?

~ My daughter had a stillbirth – the baby in the hospital morgue but she desperately wants to see him and his siblings need to have closure. We’re being told it’s not possible, what can we do?

~ My husband died suddenly and I just don’t know how to tell the children, they are 4 and 8. Help!

– My daughter died by suicide and I just can’t seem to move on – can you suggest a ritual I can do?

Ask the Death Midwife

Book your appointment with Olivia

Appointments are $50 for 20 minutes.

You will receive a confirmation e-mail with appointment time and phone number to call.

Thank you!



The Advance Death Care Directive

A planning e-booklet for after-death care, funeral and disposition…

"Relieve your loved ones from making these difficult decisions, complete your directive today!"

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